Looking for Love

Looking for Love

I can only speak for myself when I say I would not like to be single. I like being in a relationship and I like having a constant companion. Perhaps it is structured in our DNA, who knows, it is one of those things that is out of my control, as I have always felt the same.

When you are young, free and single looking for love has different challenges for those more mature that may have been divorced or widowed. This goes to say for senior citizens looking for love, this has a different concept altogether. However, whatever your age and stage of life the outcome you are looking for is potentially the same. A committed partner to bring you both joy and happiness.

First Love

They say we will always remember our first love. Falling in love as a teenager is more intense than the experience in adulthood however short-lived it might turn out to be. 

Love is always special, but your first love moves you in a way that is totally unique. It introduces you to feelings you have never had before and is accompanied by a sense of wonder, intrigue, and excitement. 

Even though your first love may not have lasted, it will be a part of who you are for the rest of your life and an experience you would want to pass by.

Second Time Around

Ending a long-term relationship is a huge life change. Divorce can have a damaging effect on your self-confidence, trust, outlook on life and the future. Some may be amicable; others may be challenging with an added complication of children or even special devoted pets to take into consideration.

Starting a new relationship will ultimately have its up’s and downs, however if you are both committed to one another, challenges can be ironed out for a long-term happy relationship.

Whether you decide to stay single for a time, focus on your career or family or start a new relationship, don’t rush into something new if one of you is not completely ready. After a breakup, there will be a need for healing and life without that person may bring about loneliness and feelings of abandonment. If you have concerns about starting a new relationship too soon click here to help manage areas of doubt.

When you’re dating someone, who’s lost a spouse or partner, you’re entering an area of dating that not many people have experience of.

Some may grieve over their lost partners; others may not have had the marriage they wanted. It’s advisable to take the relationship slowly. Be a good listener and give them the freedom to talk about their loss. 

Companionship – In later years, the goals for each person and for the marriage needs to be redefined. Your relationship now can focus on love, collaboration, support and ultimately companionship as most of your career and family goals have already been achieved. Communication will certainly be the key to success as well as the ability to adjust to change.

Relationships are not easy, there will always be ups and downs. Perseverance helps and always remind yourself of what attracted you to one another in the first place as this often can be lost.

Poppy Watt

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